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Wednesday, July 26, 2006


I miss my mother.

Not a day has gone by since she died in February that I don't think about her. Especially when I need a hug or a little moral support.

When I was in particular need of a hug recently, Darling Daughter told me about a dream she had. It seems my mother told her that she will be on the wings of a butterfly to let us know when she's there, watching over us.

I have a friend who lost her husband a few years ago. She said she finds comfort watching Monarch butterflies emerge on the milkweed plant she and her husband planted before he died.

She knew nothing about Darling's dream when she e-mailed me recently and said she is nurturing a milkweed plant for me. Soon, she said, the caterpillars will turn into beautiful Monarchs.

Then, I will be waiting for a butterfly kiss from my mother.


Anonymous Pete said...

I lost my Mother on June 13,1989 at the age of 58 years. She had by and large been a victim of her own neglect and bad habits.Still,not a day goes by that I do not think of her. The pain of her premature death has long since subsided,replaced by the memories of a Mother who in my youth was very caring and very nuturing.
My deepest sympathy to you Diana.
Your Mom raised one sensitive,caring woman if your writings are any indication.

" that fly and all but sing"
~ Robert Frost

Wed Jul 26, 10:45:00 AM  
Anonymous Dr. Grandson said...

I miss her too. I find myself feeling very guilty because I couldn't find the time to see her more often while she was here. Thinking back, holidays just were not enough. I don't remember when I gave up on our weekly crazy eights card game visits but now I wish I would have continued that tradition much longer. Probably around the time when I got a car I became to self-involved to know better.

Wed Jul 26, 10:57:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It was coming up to a year after my loved ones passing when I first noticed the larva, the chrysalis and then the butterfly. It kept me busy, but I took it all as a sign that he was okay and that I had emerged stronger and would be okay as well. I have no doubt it was him and a sign........

Wed Jul 26, 11:53:00 AM  
Blogger Judy Grivas said...

I know how deeply you feel the loss of your mother. The only thing I can assure you of is that the pain lessens a little as the years pass...though the connection between mother and daughter, I believe, is one which goes on into eternity -- unbroken.
My mother died in 1980, when I was in my early 30's and our son was days away from turning 5 years old.
Judy Grivas

Wed Jul 26, 01:27:00 PM  
Anonymous The little "Ophan Princess" said...

As I walked into the house with my Mom's Audrey Hepburn sunglasses on and after a day speaking to a friend about the loss of our mothers-I got your blog

The first after death is guilt-why didn't I do this or that-forget it-we all do what is best at the time-including our Moms

The second is the "ophan syndrome"-I am all alone and nobody will tell me what to wear, how to act, where to find the ladies' restroom in our favorite places, etc.

Bottom line-as I said before-our Moms and Dads never leave us-because as the years pass we become just like them and if they are good people we continue to contribute to society and to our families as they did before us.

All you "Kids" out there either get a lemonade or have a glass of wine depending on your age

God Bless All Of You

Wed Jul 26, 03:10:00 PM  
Anonymous Jacob Morris said...

Hey Diana,
You have helped to cheer my Mom up since I passed on Passover-Thank you and cheer-up-your Mom wants you to be happy

Wed Jul 26, 03:12:00 PM  
Anonymous Norm said...


Today's di-ablog is not very whimsical. But it sure is touching.

Wed Jul 26, 05:48:00 PM  
Anonymous Darling Daughter said...

I can't wait for the day that I see a purple butterfly in the mall, then, there will be no doubt that it is her visiting. But for now the white butterflies that I see around still make me feel like she is saying "hi."

Wed Jul 26, 11:35:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think of my mother every day. It will be 8 years in Sept. She was 88 and ready to die.Oh, yes, she could drive me nuts but I miss her. Now when I wear some piece of her jewelry, or see a piece of her furniture in my children's houses , she is there. Best of all I love it when they say I sound like her or just like her!!!!!

Thu Jul 27, 10:21:00 AM  
Anonymous big sister said...

I hear our mother's voice (sometimes its our Gram's voice) saying my name when I'm sitting in bed reading. I just tell her I love her and wish I could hear the rest of what she's trying to tell me.

Thu Jul 27, 03:19:00 PM  
Anonymous D. Harris said...

Wanted you to know that I too, think of her every day. I still feel her watching over Jana and I. Maybe it is not from across the street, but a much larger scale now. I also carry many memories of her and who I am today has something to do with you and your entire family. Thank you....

Wed Aug 02, 09:20:00 AM  
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